Sibling conflicts are common when managing caregiving duties for an aging parent. If you are involved in caring for a senior loved one, work with your siblings on developing a care plan for him or her keeping these tips in mind.
1. Involve Your Loved One
Sometimes, siblings get so caught up in their conflicts they forget the person who is truly affected by their decisions. Ideally, you should have conversations with your parent about how he or she prefers for you and your siblings to manage the care. If you have discussed this, defer to your loved one’s prior decisions and ask if he or she would like anything changed. If possible, while your loved one is still able to think and communicate clearly, involve him or her in the big decisions regarding where to live and who will be the primary caregiver.
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2. Let Go of the Past
Even if your siblings were not very responsible when you were kids, try to take the viewpoint that times have changed. Siblings have past experiences with one another that can sometimes make it hard to communicate. You may be feeling deep hurt or resentment over your siblings’ past decisions. Put those feelings aside for now, and focus on making sure your parent has everything he or she needs. You may even be surprised to discover that your siblings have changed for the better.
3. Rely on a Neutral Party
Fighting with your siblings over who your parent will live with or who will help him or her bathe is counterproductive. When you and your siblings cannot reach an agreement, ask a neutral party to step in and help with these and other decisions. Talk to your loved one’s medical team to find out if he or she has special needs and how you can reduce the risk of falling around the home or minimize the effects of memory loss on safety and overall health. Consider having a home assessment to determine the types of services your loved one needs. Taking professional advice and hiring a professional caregiver can help you and your siblings resolve conflicts regarding things such as transportation and personal hygiene.
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4. Schedule Follow Up Meetings
Once there is a basic care plan in place, it is important for everyone involved to know changes are sometimes necessary due to a new health diagnosis or added personal responsibilities on the primary caregiver. Hold regular follow up meetings where each sibling can voice his or her concerns and talk about how he or she is adjusting. If necessary, provide support to a sibling who is facing challenges so you can reduce negative emotions that could lead to new conflicts in the future.
Some seniors need occasional assistance at home, and oftentimes the family members who take care of them need time away to run errands, take a nap, go to work, or take a vacation. Indianapolis, IN, respite care experts from Home Care Assistance are available on an as-needed basis, giving your family peace of mind that your loved one will remain safe and comfortable while you relax or focus on other important responsibilities. Call [hca_phone] to speak with a Care Manager about customizing a care plan for your loved one.